jmarcosm
I found a contrib AltQmail that seems to be my solution but is not working on 9.1!
https://wiki.contribs.org/AltQmail
As it says at the end of that article, if there are problems with the contrib please post a bug report.
That is the way to trigger off the maintainer to do some fixes.
Be prepared to follow through with log entries etc as requested.
Wondershaper should still help with reducing your bandwidth saturation.
Qmail will queue the outgoing messages, & SME server will establish 40 concurrent remote connections by default.
Qmail will try to use as much bandwidth as it can.
You can set the qmail Remote Concurrency setting to be very low, the validity of doing so depends on your servers mail load etc (how many messages going in & out & how quickly you want to send/receive them & the size of each message).
This will help to slow down the outgoing mesages & therefore reduce the saturation of your bandwidth.
db configuration setprop qmail ConcurrencyRemote 1
signal-event email-update
More typical lower settings on SME are
config setprop qmail ConcurrencyLocal 4
config setprop qmail ConcurrencyRemote 10
signal-event email-update