I have uninstalled and started again using the above info. This has changed as I now see a 500 error when using a browser to connect to the activesync url.
But alas phone is not working. It must however be close as I have no errors in http error logs and this in the sogo logs
2014-03-20 17:36:08.732 sogod[3024] -[WEClientCapabilities initWithRequest:]: Unknown WebClient: user-agent='MSFT-WP/8.0.10517'
82.132.238.126 - - [20/Mar/2014:17:36:08 GMT] "OPTIONS /SOGo/Microsoft-Server-ActiveSync?User=james.wilson&DeviceId=34F7B4D7D7007DE93660A1225CA5C624&DeviceType=WP8 HTTP/1.1" 200 0/0 0.002 - - 0
81.143.33.105 - - [20/Mar/2014:17:36:08 GMT] "POST /SOGo/Microsoft-Server-ActiveSync?jREJCBA097TX1wB96TZgoSJcpcYkBAAAAAADV1A4 HTTP/1.1" 200 19/11 0.002 - - 0
81.143.33.105 - - [20/Mar/2014:17:36:09 GMT] "POST /SOGo/Microsoft-Server-ActiveSync?jQkJCBA097TX1wB96TZgoSJcpcYkBAAAAAADV1A4 HTTP/1.1" 200 1089/13 0.222 - - 0
Which to me seems its trying but the phone has
Error code 85002012
which seems to talk about missing folders / names its expecting. I have tried disabling email and just syncing calendar but no go.
but if email is not syncing get error 80072ef3?
Not sure where to look now as from the logs with no errors its seems its ok?