Hi Ray,
Thanks again. I agree that it's not a problem that is necessarily unique to SME, but this is about the best forum I know to get answers to my questions.
I have a few follow-up questions if that's OK.
I'll have to contact my ISP to see if I have access to their mail servers. I don't see any mention of it in our contract or on their website help section. That'll be something for next week.
I see that you have a static IP. Do you do your own DNS? (We do) The reason I ask is that setting up correct reverse DNS seems not to be possible if you (like us) have only a portion of a Class C address, and want to maintain your own DNS records. The reason we do our own is because we have our domain names with a different registrar to our ISP. Our ISP is relatively expensive for domain name registration (nearly 8 times what we currently pay), and won't do our DNS unless we register our domain names using their service.
This hasn't been a problem in the past (I mean reverse DNS). I have searched the net over reverse DNS and it seems that I need a full Class C address to do correct reverse DNS myself. As I don't have access to nuclear weapons (or large amounts of cash) my chance of getting a full Class C address is nil. I have contacted the ISP about reverse DNS because I read somewhere on the web that it WAS possible to subdivide Class C for reverse DNS, so long as the ISP played along. I contacted my ISP and got the anwser - 'Yes, we've also had that request from other customers, and we could do it, but we're not going to'.
We don't currently have SPF records in our DNS. I've only recently become aware of SPF (I'm not a computer 'techie') and maybe this would be enough to solve the problem. Can you point me in the direction of good information over how to set this up?
I know this is no longer SME territory, but if you or anyone else knows if it is possible to do reverse DNS (without the co-operation of the ISP) for only a section of a Class C address, please let me know.
What we really need to do is make the world more aware of SME. Mail filtering works just fine for us - I see in the logs that loads of mails are stopped - mostly by the blacklist system, and some than by Spamassassin - and all the right ones get through! All this and I don't even have to have any technical knowledge. SME is really a brilliant system. If everyone uses it we won't have this problem!

I would also like to thank you Ray for your replies. I regularly search the forum for help and you always seem to give quick and very helpful advice to people who post.